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My Story, pls share to inspire other women.

I started business in the Nigerian law school Bwari in 1999 selling clothes to friends and colleagues just to get by. But I quickly saw the potential and what started small soon turned into big business.
I got my first store(ASHERS)immediately after law school and in no time the money started rolling in. It was great.
My failure story started immediately I got married. The truth be told I had the red flags when we were dating but choose to ignore them. There was no honeymoon, within days of saying “I do” the violence started, followed in quick succession with verbal abuse. Everything that could go wrong went wrong.
I stayed, took it and hoped for a better tomorrow. Tomorrow never came. I wasn’t perfect but THIS? Naaa… When I consulted people they all said just STAY you know this is NIGERIA the husband is the head, bla bla bla …. Bad advice. If he’s violent LEAVE… You don’t need to pray about it JUST LEAVE. People have died…
Eventually the business went down.
4 years later, a 7 month old baby, a low self esteem, no money, no business, no nothing, I ran back home. With plenty of time to think without harassment I took stock. How did I get here In the first place? How could I have ignored all the red flags? This was my “aha” moment. I was stupid. Love has to be synchronised with common sense.(shine your eyes) and NEVER plan to change anybody. ARE YOU GOD?
After taking stock I took some major decisions
1. I’m not going back
2. I can make it on my own
Once I took responsibility for my mistakes and took my decisions, bouncing back became easier. First I worked on myself. I ditched all the lies that brought me down and began to tell myself a new story. I’m smart, I’m beautiful, intelligent, hardworking, mover and shaker etc.
Things began to click afterwards. I rebuilt the business and remained focused and committed to making it successful. Other good things I didn’t plan for happened. I remarried (my best friend) and had two more wonderful kids.
In my journey anytime I encounter people that say you can’t make it, I run far from them and instead look for positive people that believe in me and my dreams. Failure is not a death sentence. You can bounce back, you can make it. TAKE ACTION NOW… today is our 7th year wedding anniversary so I thought to share my story. You have to marry the right person and I’m hoping that you get it right the 1st time. When home front is good everything works out and even when it’s tough out there home becomes your refuge. I’ve been blessed with an amazing 2nd chance. Hubby has turned my life around, taken the business to the next level,he’s been my bank and ATM and he definitely has my medicine. Many highs and many lows but 7 amazing years of friendship.
So on a lighter note with this my story should we still include men in this our contest?
A number of people have said to me just do women? What do you say? I need more failure stories. We like pretending in naija like everything is always fine but we all know better. Share your story joor it’s therapeutic…
I’m looking forward to your story…
Part 2 is coming soon

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  1. So amazed,truly blessed by your story also taking note of the red flag and pipointer. My dearest pstr and freind LaRry B. God truly lift u and bless u. And give u all d marital bliss and blessing u and my big bro

  2. LARA BEAUTIFUL STORY OF TRIUMPH. GOD HAS GIVEN US AS WOMEN A SPECIAL GIFT THST NO ONE CAN TAKE FROM US. WE R THE MOTHER’S OF NATIONS! STAND TALL IN YOUR VICTORY WITH GOD ON YOUR SIDE NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE. YOU HAVE ALSO MY SHARING GIVEN A WOMAN SOMEWHERE A VOICE YO SAY NO TO EMOTIONAL OR PHYSICAL ABUSE AND WALK AWAY TO LOVR HERSELF ……WELL DONE GOD BLESS!

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